Okay...first of all... I apologize from the bottom of my heart for the lack of posts. I originally committed myself to post everyday and the last few weeks have been very busy with modernmatches and every day life. Tommorow is me and Adams two-year anniversary. yesterday was Bayleigh's 1st birthday (our dog). We will be heading off to Ottawa this weekend for some much needed R&R. We first officiallized our relationship there, so it seems fitting to go back. We kissed in front of the Lord Elgin hotel, he held my hand, and i told him I was ready to give my heart to him and this relationship. I had gone through a pretty bad breakup a few years earlier and he knew that it was going to take a while for me to trust again and be ready to let someone else in my heart and life.
We all go through really bad relationships, bad breakups, and sometimes it takes a very very long time to get over them. Some people take longer than others. One important thing to remember is do not rush into another relationship when you know deep inside your not ready. This is likely to be a re-bound and nothign more than a short-term fix. Unless youve come to a place where you have come to terms with the end of the last relationship, and youve accepted that the relationship is over and dead - dont bother wasting anyone elses time, and give yourself some time alone to naturally get over it.
A lot of people I see (myself included once) bounce from relationship to relationship. I did this alot and it took me a long time to realize the damage I was doing. I had no sense of value for anyone else, much less myself. If you really want to find *true* love, form long-lasting bonds and relationships, and committ yourself to someone who will also committ themselves to you - then you need to stop serial dating (cause quality vs quantity is WAY better) and you need to stop and think about what qualities you are looking for. Make your list. I'd love to hear what some of you come up with. Here was my list:
- Kind and compassionate
-affectionate and loving
-giving and generous (not cheap)
- smart and ambitious
- family-oriented
- could make me laugh
- adventurous (would keep me on my toes)
- romantic and spontaneous
- attractive, warm smile, nice body, good sense of style
- would treat me like a princess
After i started realizing what was important to me i realized that I shouldnt settle for less. I hope this exercise helps shed some light on what kind of person you are looking for. Also...its funny when you look at your list and then look back at your relationships, you start to notice that the most important attributes you needed for happiness...your exes usually never had them.
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